I Wish I Had A Margie

Dear Margie,

I do not know how you do it. You are the person that I wish to become more like. As we get through this long weekend and week to come I am amazed once again by your selflessness. I don’t know how you do so much for so many of us. I watch as you jump right in to help with just about anything and it touches my heart that someone like you exists on this planet. I have never met someone more giving than you and I am brought to tears as I try to use these pitiful words to scratch even the surface of how much you mean to me.

A woman may get lucky enough to marry her soul mate, but to also feel so much love and closeness with her mother in law is almost unusual. I know of so many friends that can get along with their mother in laws but it is different than what I have. Margie, I don’t think we get along. I think that we are much more. I really feel like you would do ANYTHING for me, Brian, our family…. actually almost anyone. There aren’t very many people like you in the world so you should know how important that you are.

I watch as you spend most of your days taking care of others, mostly us, and I think how exhausting it must be. I bet you don’t toss and turn much at night. I would guess that you fall asleep in seconds from the laborious and thankless work that you do each day.

I want you to know how much I thank you. I know that our family wouldn’t run as smoothly as it does without you. I feel like we all work together like such a team but you are our team leader. I married a man and I gained his whole family for which I could never be more grateful.

I tell you that most people that know me are envious of your role in our lives. If I had a penny for the times I’ve heard “I wish I had a Margie” we both could probably stop working. It’s the truth. Everyone wishes that they had a Margie of their own because you are amazing!

As we sat at dinner Saturday night you began to clean up the table and said for me to stay put because I had already worked hard for the day. I had been at work since nine and I truly was exhausted, but the real work is the work that you do. You make sure that my kids are loved and cared for when I can not. You make sure that they are smiling and laughing and running and reading and jumping and getting muddy. You make sure that they blow bubbles and paint, jump in puddles and visit the library weekly. You are the person I never think twice to leave them with and there is nothing more important than that. I just don’t know how you do it.

Someday, I hope to turn out like you, or at least a close second. Your shoes could never be filled but I would be happy to try them on. I want to be as calm and collected as you are when trouble arises. I want to care with all of my heart about all people like you do. You are always the one to remind me that sometimes there is a bigger picture. When it is so easy to be angry at a person or a situation, you point out the brighter side of things. I rarely see you crack under pressure. You always seem to have your composure.

I have never met someone more organized than you. You have every birthday, event, work schedule, dance recital, soccer game, graduation, holiday, party, etc. on a calendar somewhere and you never forget a single one. I’ve known you for as long as I’ve been with Brian, sixteen years, and I’ve never seen you miss anything because you forgot.

You are a angel to me. I can’t quite figure out how you do what you do. I don’t know where you get the energy that you have. I’m some years younger than you and I have trouble keeping up. You truly are a gift from God and I, as well as the rest of the world that knows you, are the ones that are blessed to have you in our lives.

Thank you for the piece of mind that you give me each day when I am away from my children. Thank you for the support that you show our family whenever things get tough. Thank you for the compassion that you show and teach Cassidy and Jacob as well as myself. Thank you for the endless hours that you spend taking care of everyone other than yourself. Thank you for the impact that you have made in my life and my children’s. I speak for Brian, Cassidy, Jacob and myself when I say that you have forever touched our hearts.

There is no one else like you out there but there should be. I love you so much!

Love, Cherise